The world is filled with people and their judgment.
No matter what you do they will not be satisfied and find a reason to complain or hate.
As they saying goes, you can be the ripest peach in the farm and there is still someone who does not like peaches.
You will find people that live to criticize others.
What is important is how you feel about yourself. The steps you are talking to become a better human being. That is what matters. Everything else is irrelevant.
You must make yourself happy. When you wake up in the morning are you satisfied, are you fine with the person you are?
That we treat people how we want to be treated is what matters.
You are responsible for yourself and your happiness, not to please others.